Seeking Normal – Day 12

Day 12 prompt:

If we agree that there are variations of normal, than the normal we seek is one variation of many; is it content normal, happy normal, young normal…how many “normal’s” do you have”?

My answer:

I think there are two ways to answer this and one is about the current situation we are all in where you have been forced into a “new” normal for the time being and yet long for your “old” normal that we are simply not sure will ever exist as it did before. This is a great example of how there are many normal’s among us and therefore how to embrace many variations.

I think this also has value in understanding intention. There is a normal I attempt based on my intentions and yet there is another that exists without effort. My intention for normal on weekends is to spend one day working on everything that needs my attention; laundry, errands, cleaning, etc. and then one day enjoying family and relaxing. Many weekends I am so exhausted from the week that I do absolutely nothing and that is not something I will ever embrace as “normal”. In those days I choose to believe it is a mild interruption in my normal in an effort to meet myself where I am in that moment.

Last but not least I would be remiss if I did not share the first thing that came to mind when reading this prompt. This concept of variations of normal that we exercise has something to do with our many personalities. Ha…yes the more personalities the more normal. If it makes you feel more comfortable you can call them “roles”. My normal at work, is different than my normal at home. I am noticing that even when I am working at home that normal is different. It changes with the environment but so does my character, personality or persona.

Lots to think about. My father says I “think too much”, ha!, maybe he is right but it is my NORMAL! List your normal’s in the comments section. How many do you have; and if that task is hard to conceive list our your many personalities…that actually might be more fun! 🙂

Life as I overthink it – L.

Seeking Normal – Day 6

Day 6 prompt:

Contentment is a state of being but how does it relate to normal? Is “normal” having routines or is it simply being satisfied with our state of being at that moment? Is it wrong to long for contentment beyond this moment? Is this where lacking gratitude begins?

My answer:

This is a heck of a prompt as the more I have researched the more I realize that contentment is more about gratitude for what you have and who you are in life in general. Normal is the routine or what is commonplace for you and a shared commonality for the masses. I think as it is written the prompt confuses the two.

Where I think the two can merge is to create the “normal” or routines in your life that creates contentment. If I am working daily to become more content then one begets the other.

As I often do I researched and found the following as a great guide to pass on to be content:

  1. Practice Gratitude
  2. Take control of your attitude
  3. Break the buying habit
  4. Stop comparing yourself to others
  5. Help others
  6. Be content with what you have, never with what you are

#6 got my attention as it seemed counter intuitive however as it was described it noted, “Contentment is not the same as complacency. As soon as you stop growing, you start dying.” The idea is that there is always room for improvement.

Funny as it may seem I also researched a list to offer on “how to be normal” and actually found something to share:

  1. Become more open-minded.
  2. Surround yourself with people you like.
  3. Love unconditionally.
  4. Do what you love.
  5. Realize that bad things happen to everyone.
  6. Learn how to forgive yourself.

Interesting lists as they are great to remind us how to create contentment and normal in your own life. I guess the prompt might have been better stated, “Is it normal to feel content” and the easy answer is not right or wrong it is more of an evaluation of where you are in the moment that you are answering that question.

I hope that this exploration of “seeking normal” is helping you to understand where you are today and where you wish to be in the future. The way you spend the time today will define your normal and ultimately if you will ever find contentment in the future.

Life as I seek it – L.

What to write about…

I sit here every night wondering what inspired me today enough to make it my subject. And then I have those days that are simply wonderfully random and I have thought I would like to write about all of these “feels” that I have experienced that day. So today is that day, my day of randomness that I just want to share everything:

  • Watching AGT which I was never a fan of before but became a fan in the year I spent with my mother, it was a fave of hers. The randomness of my thoughts tonight are that the judges just gave a standing O for a lovely girl but the song was not so lovely…
  • So many changes happening with my youngest who just passed his Learner’s Permit tonight and talked to me about getting a job next. It’s happening…freedom found…and I am losing my last baby. Oh my heart…
  • My husband was not feeling well today and as I am listening to the symptoms I am internally panic stricken that the thought that he would ever leave me here alone is beyond comprehension. Do you ever panic over the thought of losing your loved ones even though you know even thinking about it is the wrong train of thought, but you are so in fear…ugh…I’ll stop now.

This was just the randomness of my evening. My ride home conversation was rewarding as yet another one of my loves shares their next venture and courage to make the change they want in their own life.

This is life, it’s random, it’s not predictable but most importantly it is absolutely what YOU make it. I have struggled lately figuring out this “new normal”, making sense out of the randomness and the many changes occurring all at the same time in my life. What I have learned in these moments is:

  • To be grateful for the stability in those around you that are your constant.
  • Don’t miss the moments of fellowship in every experience. Today that came in the most random moments. A person interrupting a meeting, a person staying late to share stories about their children and the best of course was being having a late dinner and playing in the ball pit with my grand babies.

Tomorrow is another day. It will be random as any other day. These days I look forward to the random, I am beyond longing for normal, my life is as versatile as my spirit, my views and my love

What do I write about tonight? What I always write about…

Life as I see it – L.