On this 24th wedding anniversary I am moved to dedicate this blog to my husband. I was talking to a friend today and telling her that 24 years is a lifetime and when I think back to when we met I realize that we have lived more years together than apart. Many couples talk about growing apart as the years pass, the kids grow up and out and the careers settle-in. I have to be honest in saying that I/we truly know how that happens as we first met when he was 17 and I was 20. A lot of things change in and about a person from teenager to 40-something+. What I will also admit is that we have to fight every single day for this marriage as it never gets easier. The factors change, the stresses evolve but the partnership remains solid because it was built on the most solid of foundations; friendship.
The last few years have been fraught with the biggest hurdles of my life. Losing my mother and my health has put my sanity to the test. I have felt I was on the brink and just when I didn’t think I could do one more day…there you were. Every time I came home from Virginia, I came home to you, the keeper of everything that is me. Every time I went through another surgery, another procedure, another diagnosis…there you were, reminding me that I am tougher than the worst thing that could happen to me.
What I know for sure is that every time I came home from where ever I was or am in this world…there you are. When I am with you I feel “safe”. I feel like I am going to be okay. It’s not a word you say or a thing you do; it is knowing that you are there. When you are in the room, all is right in my world.
I thank you for all you are, all you put up with…WE have been through it! I would not want to walk this journey with anyone else and regardless of how many times in our 24 years I have said, “If you don’t like it you can leave…” (HA!) you know you would never even reach the front door and I would be pulling you back.
Thank you for 24 years but more importantly thank you for loving me. Thank you for being the place I call home. Thank you for making me feel safe in a world where safety is a premium. You are my safe place and for that I am forever blessed.
Life…safe…with him – L.